THIS IS PART TWO OF OUR GUEST BLOGGING HUSBAND. THE NEXT FEW BLOGS FROM HIM WILL BE AS I INTERVIEW HIM. "INTERVIEW WITH A HUSBAND". HE HAS SOME EXCELLENT INSIGHT. READ THIS..AND COMMENT IF YOU WOULDN'T MIND? THANKS. HIS COMMENTS FOLLOW:
"There is one over arching theme throughout the Bible: A wedding, the bride and the bridegroom. The Bible ends with the marriage supper of the Lamb. When we get married here on earth, it is supposed to be a picture or reflection of this love relationship we have with the Creator of the universe.
We get married because we have decided to love this person, to be who God made us to be for them, to fulfill a role as husband/wife for them, because it makes God smile when we live as we were created to live. We do not get married because we want to have sex, or because we are afraid of being alone/lonely. We do not get married to be saved from being single, or for what this other person can do for me or how they make me feel. Those are a small part of why we get married. If they are the main reasons....then your levels of disappointment are going to be high. Just like if we are following Jesus because we don't want
To go to hell.
Our roles are very simple in a marriage: Men, love as I have loved you, provide as I have provided for you, protect her/make her feel safe as I do for you, and be the leader in her life as I guide you. Make her feel like she is the most precious, valuable, delicate, beautiful person on this planet.
Men, we simply reflect what God is doing for us.
The problem is.....we cannot give what we are not receiving. So if a husband is not treating his wife as God has asked, then said husband may be going to church, reading his Bible, and talking a big talk, but he is obviously not seriously pursuing a love relationship with our creator.
If he were - he would be seeking healing and wholeness from his past (family of origin issues), so that he could better love you and all those around him and those he comes into contact with. He would understand that his life is not his own. He has given it to Jesus and lives only to fulfill the roles God has for him and he does so by choice, not because he feels like he has to in order to stay in God's good graces. This is not rocket science. We will give only what is welling up on the inside of us. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
Women, vice versa for you. The same principles apply, although your role is a little different. Respect, as I respect you. Affirm, nurture and receive. Look them up and study them if you are unsure what they mean, but the same holds true for you, if you are in a healthy, loving relationship with God, you will be pursuing this role.
Will we get it right everyday? No. It's journey. Will it be easy? No. It's a journey. Will we feel like doing it? Bo. It's a journey.
We keep the destination always in front of us and God's grace/mercy, which are new everyday, will keep us moving forward.
Let the comments commence."