Sunday, September 27, 2015


I received an email from a Mrs. Younger who is signed up to receive this blog of mine.  (BTW.. thank you to all of you who HAVE signed up to receive this via email. Upper right corner of the page. I don't send you anything but this blog...promise.)

Anyway..she asked, "Mrs. Older, other than your spiritual advice to seek the Lord, read His Word, and ask for the help of the Holy Spirit to accomplish what is put before me, what OTHER advice would you give to younger wives and mothers?"

I answered her by saying, "Use your time wisely. I know you are hard pressed to find time for yourself.  So one reminder I would give you is that the time you have your children  under your care will fly by and before you know it they will be gone and on their own." 

Here's my can take it or not.. but.. here it is:

  • Include your children whenever you can in whatever you do.   I'm NOT saying you should be the kind of mother who brings her children when everyone else has taken the time to get a babysitter.  I know a mom who takes her daughter every where she goes. Actually and literally. To lunches with her adult girlfriends, to prayer meetings and Bible studies - and the little girl is a distraction. But I am saying that IF you can choose an event on a Saturday afternoon that can include  -rather than exclude - your children..CHOOSE IT.  Of course, you and Mr. Younger NEED time for yourselves. OF COURSE.. but.. don't give your children the impression that the two of you would give a right arm to get away from them.. whenever you can.  Children are IMPRESSIONABLE.. and you would be surprised at how intuitive they are to what's really going on inside Mommy and Daddy.
  • Weigh your "yes" carefully. Every time you agree to do something for someone or (forgive me pastors reading this) your church, you are giving time away that you could be spending with your family.  AGAIN.. I am NOT saying NEVER volunteer for anything.. but I AM saying.. remember that when you say "YES" to one thing it means you are saying "NO" to something else.  It isn't WRONG, in my opinion, for Mom (and Dad)  to have time out of the house.. but I see Moms (and Dads) who are SO OVER COMMITTED to everyone and everything else...that they are away from their home and their kids MORE THAN THEY ARE HOME.  I have found, however, that telling a parent to stop being gone so much is considered an insult.. so.. I try to keep from saying it unless a Mommy asks me why her kids are misbehaving.  I say, "STAY HOME MORE and PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR CHILDREN" Some moms take my advice... some moms don't. 
  • No time like the present.  God has promised to supply what we need.  Therefore, He HAS supplied all the time you need to get done what He has called you to get done. So then why are so many of so short of time??? If God has promised to supply what we need? Why doesn't He supply the TIME WE NEED?   OBVIOUSLY.. we are doing things that He never intended for us to do??? Maybe???  Ask Him to show you the TIME ROBBERS.. in your life.  TV watching? Internet browsing? 
  •  Be present when you are present.   It's true that life is challenging.. and you may have a boss to answer to.. and your husband has a boss to answer to.. and bills are piling up.. and laundry is never finished... and you are rushing to soccer, football, and dance practice.. but.. listen to that little four year old tell you a story.. STOP.. look her in the eye and listen. Don't brush of the thirteen year old's recounting of how unfair her teacher was today. listen. Just STOP and listen.  
Finding time right now might seem impossible to you.  Trust me, there is a fast approaching season when you will have more than enough time... to do whatever you want to do whenever you want to do it.  It's an exciting time.. that empty nest time.. when God opens NEW doors, and DIFFERENT experiences.

BUT for now, He expects you to FIND THE TIME for your children.

I love you.
Mrs. Older

Tuesday, September 22, 2015


Even though the last thing I had time for that day was to meet someone for coffee.....I met her, a 37 year old Mrs. Younger, for coffee because she called me and was crying about an argument she'd had with her husband. And because, as this blog is testimony to, I feel compelled to obey God's Word which tells the older women to teach and help and mentor the younger.   

She said, "I am so sad about our argument last night. Would you help me?"   I got dressed and met her an hour later at our local Starbucks. 

A mere three sips in to my vanilla latte (with an extra shot), I found myself thinking she got me here on false pretenses. I don't think she wanted help as much as she felt the need for someone to agree that her husband was "Wrong, wrong, wrong! End of discussion." 
After she said that a few times, I called her bluff and said, "Well, if the fact that he is wrong ends the discussion I'm gonna go home."  
"What? Why?", she asked.
"Well, if he's wrong, wrong, wrong, and that's the only thing that matters to you...why am I here? What is there to discuss? You've got the whole thing figured out already. He's wrong. You're right. Right?" 
"Well, I guess so, but what do you think? Is he wrong?"
 "I see his point and I see yours. You're both right. You're both wrong for wanting to be right more than wanting to be in unity." 

I asked her if she wanted some simple advice.  She said she did. Here's what I told her.

1- Being right doesn't give you the right to prove you're right.   It took Mrs. Older a couple of decades to embrace this reality.  I was a little married crusader who relentlessly pursued poor Mr. Older when he was on the wrong side - according to me -  of an argument.  I knew I was right, and by golly, I was going to prove it.  Being right gave me the right to prove I was right. Right? RIGHT!  One day Mr. Older looked at me and said, "O.K. you're right" and got back to what he was doing.  "I'm right?" I asked him. "Yup. You're right."  I was right? He was wrong? EUREKA!  I WON!  It  didn't feel as good as I imagined. I decided that day that proving I was right was not a right I was entitled to. I said to her, "If your only goal is to prove that he is wrong then you will continue to inflict serious wounds in your marriage.. and though you won't remember what you were arguing about a year from now, those tiny little shots will leave scars in both your hearts."

2- Being wrong is not as horrible as you might think.  I said to my young friend, "If you want me to tell you the truth, I think that your husband has some valid points in this argument you are having. Honestly? I don't think he's as WRONG, WRONG, WRONG a you think he is." She looked at me and said a sentence with such a horrified look on her face, you'd think she was telling me that her dog just died.  She said, "You mean I'm wrong?" 
"Yes.  It happens on a regular basis to the inhabitants of Planet Earth.  Everyone is wrong sometimes.  Even you."
I attempted to show her what I saw as "his side."  
"So then I'm wrong?"
I didn't play judge or jury that day.  I just told her I could see her husband's side. 

3- OPPOSITES OFTEN OPPOSE.  The glitch in the scenario of marital peace on earth is that you are not a man, and he is.  He is the OPPOSITE sex. He will see things UTTERLY OPPOSITE many times.He doesn't see things your way. Your girlfriends might.but.. not your husband.  It's time to mature and understand that just because he doesn't agree with you doesn't mean he is wrong. 

Or if it is utterly impossible to say those words, you can try something like, "I have to admit that maybe you do have some valid points."  You won't die.  You can be wrong and still stay alive. 

Finally... the Bible advises us "Do all that YOU can to live in peace with everyone." (Romans 12:18 NLT) 
This is not a suggestion.. but an actual teaching to followers of Jesus. 
TRY to live in peace with your husband.
This might mean letting something go when you really want to fight about it.

The HOLY SPIRIT of GOD.. is MORE THAN willing to change you from someone who has to be right, to someone who is able to admit it when she is wrong.

She called me a month later to say that God had shown her the deep pride that caused her to refuse to be wrong.  Not just with her husband, but most people she knew. She sounded so soft inside when she said, "I have admitted to being wrong more in this last month, than all the fourteen years we've been married.  It's the best thing that ever happened.'

The world is filled with people who refuse to see themselves honestly.
Don't assume you aren't one of them. 
The HOME you save will be your own.
I love you,
Mrs. Older
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Sunday, August 23, 2015


Married life would be great if every day was like our wedding day and our honeymoon.  Not so much because we want to live on a beach, or spend decades in our wedding gown...but because of the way we felt about one another.  On your wedding day, your husband saw no (or little) fault in you... and you felt the same way about him.  I know very few people, who, on their wedding day thought, "How will I endure life with this baboon of a man?"   I'm not saying people like that do not exist... I'm saying I don't know them.  And so the "honeymoon" is over when that small seed of his disapproval takes root in your heart. If you are not careful, sweet princess, it will grow big enough to crush it. 

I believe that the core of every marital breakdown begins with that first tiny seed of disapproval that our spouse knowingly or unknowingly plants inside our heart.

Suddenly, one day, you are no longer his perfect princess but a clutzy clown who just ruined his favorite golf shirt; or a whiny wretch who insists he look up from his cell phone at dinner; or a needy nagger who keeps spending too much money.

Let's face it, it hurts to see that glow in his eyes fade away. And that's the problem with so many wives I know. We spend our lives trying to make it reappear.  It hurts to lose our princess crown. It hurts to see him see us differently.

And once again, we learn from Jesus and His example. One minute He was popular with the crowds, the next minute they wanted to kill Him.  His example is that He did not allow His peace AND HIS TRUE IDENTITY to be based on what other people thought about Him. HE IS THE ONLY SON OF THE ONLY GOD. That didn't change because people's opinion of Him did.

John 2:23-25 reads, "Because of the miraculous signs Jesus did in Jerusalem at the Passover celebration, many began to trust in him. But Jesus didn’t trust them, because he knew all about people. No one needed to tell him about human nature, for he knew what was in each person’s heart." 

Jesus knew that people will change their opinion of you when you stop doing what they want you to do.  He wasn't moved by people's changing opinions.  And you shouldn't be moved either. Even if that person is your husband.

If you've been reading this blog for any time at all, you know that I'm all for trying to do our best to please our husbands.  Look our best.  Speak our best. Love our best. 
But some of you are allowing your every day to rise or fall based on your husband's approval rating of you.  And in so doing, you have lost sight of the Eternal Prince who continues to see you as perfect. 

Obsessing about what your husband thinks about you seems like the right and Godly thing to do. Spending time focused on looking perfect, being perfect, doing things perfectly in order to get him to applaud you seems wise.  It isn't wise to focus on a person so intently that you lose sight of the LORD WHO LOVES YOU the same way yesterday, today and forever.  I encourage you to not lose sight of whose crown has been placed on your head and will never be taken away.

Jesus loves you.  If your husband doesn't... tell Jesus.  Ask Jesus to change his heart. Pour your heart out to Jesus. 
Focus on pleasing the Prince of Peace and He will take care of the rest.

Your royal husband delights in your beauty; honor him, for he is your lord
Psalm 45:11

I love you.
Thank you all for your kind words of sympathy and all your emails. 
Mrs. Older

Friday, August 21, 2015


Mrs. Older at the Atlanta Premiere of "War Room"

WOW. WOW. WOW. WOW.  I am amazed at how this blog is being read ALL OVER THE WORLD. So many of you have responded to my request in my last blog to "tell me who you are."   Please email me at:  LINK TO MY EMAIL

If you've been reading my blog for a while, you know I never advertise stuff here.  BUT I would like to encourage you to go see the movie "War Room" which is being released on Friday, August 28th.  It will revolutionize your life. 

Thanks again.

Mrs. Older

Thursday, August 13, 2015


Hello dear, dear readers,

Would you do me a small favor?  Would you take just a few seconds and send me an email describing yourself in a sentence or two?  Just something like, "I am a thirty-nine year old married mother of three children...." and any other thing you may want to include about yourself.  (If you want to include your city that would be great also.) I want to include it in a future blog.  I won't use your name.

You may do it by posting a comment here or by sending me an email at:

Wednesday, August 12, 2015


It seems like a hundred years ago I wrote that I was going to spend a couple of blogs writing about talking.  The title I suggested was, "Can We Tell How You Speak At Home by The Way Your Children Speak in Public?" Before we get to that series of blogs, I'd like to mention something to my overworked and underpaid Mrs. Youngers.  I would just like to remind you that

God created children to ask questions.

Yes. He did. That's how children learn.  If you think the world is vague and confusing to you - an adult - just think how confusing it is to your kids. And you (and Mr. Younger) are the people God has put in place to answer all their questions.  That's the simple, genius system God has put in place. Children ask questions. Parents lovingly and patiently answer them.  

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA... yeah right  Sometimes there are so many questions that it seems like torture.  Every three seconds, "Mom, why is that man walking like that?' "Mom, when are we going to get ice cream?" "Mom, why do dogs bark instead of talking?" And they go on and on and on.  There are so many questions that the normal mom probably only answers about 25% of them. 

But this is just a gentle reminder that your child asking you questions may not seem like a big deal to you.. but it's a big deal to your kid.  So for today.. just try and notice them.. and answer them... the best you can.

Your children don't pack up and leave you just because they have some questions you do not answer.  You may not want to explain why Uncle Bob is in prison, or cousin Susan lost her driver's license.  You may not want to explain why Grandma is so fat, or Grandpa is so cranky.  

No.  Your children still love you... even when they ask a question and it goes unanswered.

I want to be that kind of a child.  I want to understand that sometimes I have real questions and I ask God for answers to those questions.  And sometimes all I hear is silence. It seems like He doesn't answer.  I don't pack up and leave Him just because I don't get answers.  No, I still love Him. Even when I ask a question and I am waiting for an answer.  We all have unanswered questions. Sometimes we get answers.  Sometimes we just love our Father in Heaven and trust in His goodness.
Be that kind of child today.  Trust Him.  He is love.

"When doubts filled my mind, your comfort gave me renewed hope and cheer. "
 (Psalm 94:19)


Mrs. Older.

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Wednesday, July 15, 2015


My last blog, "I Will Always Miss Mrs. Even Older" was about the fact that my 92 year old mom passed away on June 6th. I am touched by the emails with comforting words that I have received from so many of you. Thank you.  Mom was a feisty, fearless WOMAN OF GOD.. and when she died she left behind her husband of 72 years, my father, Mr. Even Older.  

My father, 91, has always been the epitome of what a father should be. He was a pastor for most of my life, and a man who loved people and the Lord with all his heart.  For the past year or so, he has lost a great deal of his mobility, and mom devoted herself to his care. My amazing husband selflessly cared for my father for many months. 

The day after mom died, we moved Dad in to our home.  He has his own bedroom, and we assured him that we would continue to care for him.  He was a kind, gentle, Godly man.  You'll notice I use the word "was"... because two days ago, on July 13th... he slipped away to heaven to be with mom.  Just 37 days after she went.. he went too.

HIS FAVORITE SONG - anyone can tell you - FOR ALL HIS LIFE - was a fast-paced song, "There's going to be a meeting in the air..."  
And he had his meeting in the air. 

I know they are both in the presence of God right now. 
But.. I miss them both.  

Caring for my parents has been center stage in our lives for the past four months. This all happened so quickly.  I am still processing it all.
 I hope to be able to get back to blogging soon.
I miss all my sweet Mrs. Youngers...
In the meantime, thank you for your prayers. And your emails.
Mrs. Older

Sunday, June 14, 2015


Mrs. Older's mom... Mrs. Even Older.... went to be with the Lord on Saturday, June 6th, 2015.  She was 92 years old and a powerful woman of God.  

On April 1st, we got the news that her pain was not just a gallbladder attack but it was a terminal disease... and she would be gone from this earth sooner than any of us had imagined.  For the past eleven weeks, I have been at her home caring for her.   And just being close to her. Watching her face.  Looking in to her green and beautiful eyes.  Cherishing every single second with her.  Kissing her. Hugging her.  Telling her every word I could think of to tell her.  Mostly, "I love you, Mom."  I have not been able to write this blog because my heart was with my mom. I hope y'all understand.

The Lord was good to me and He allowed me all those weeks to get used to her home going.  It was a very long goodbye and I am so thankful for it.   I know God decides the days of our lives.  I am thankful to Him that when He chose to take her home, He had mercy and her last weeks of life were not painful.. and her passing was peaceful... as she quietly breathed her last breath.  Our whole family was gathered by her bedside... I was holding her hand.. my son was holding her other hand... My brother.. his wife... my beautiful daughter-in-law, Mr. Older and our three grandchildren were all there.  We sang. Read Scripture.
My dad... who is 91 and still alive... is bedridden and was not able to be there.. but was in another room... Praying for her.

As with most people who have lost their mom, I now know that no on can ever fill the HUGE HOLE in my life that exists where my mother used to be. 

She loved the Word of God. Every morning, she would spend time with the Lord and her Bible.  Every day, she would write down a particular verse that stood out to her... and write that verse on an index card.  Invariably.. that exact Scripture was one that God used to encourage someone she spoke to that day.

I have boxes of these index cards.  They are more precious than gold to me. My mom writing God's Word.

Three days ago, I was very sad.  I know my mom is in the presence of the Lord.  If anyone was in love with Jesus it was my mother.    I just miss her.  I am not despondent. I know she lived a long, happy and HOLY life.

BUT.. a daughter misses her mom.

I got in to my car three days ago and that card pictured above... with that verse was sitting in the middle of the passenger's seat.  I KID YOU NOT.  I asked my husband if he put it there. He did not.

That verse is God's instruction to Mrs. Older about how to find the strength to mourn the passing of Mrs. Even Older.  I will wait for Him.

How could my mom have known on the day she wrote that verse that God would use the verse and her card to comfort her own daughter as she deals with her mother's passing?

I don't have any explanation for how that card got there.  The boxes of those cards are in my house far, far away from the car.  The card was there.  It encouraged and continues to encourage me.

Thank you Lord for taking the time to be sure that an older woman who is sad to lose her mom has been reminded in the most unusual way that YOU will strengthen me.. and I need to believe that and wait on YOU.

Appreciate your prayers as I walk through this never-before-season of living without Mom.

Mrs. Older

Wednesday, June 3, 2015


Where have I been? Where have I been? 

Well, honestly, Mrs. Older has been taking care of Mr. and Mrs. Even Older - my parents.

Suddenly, at the beginning of April, my parents, who are 91 and 92 years old began to show their age.  They are in need of almost constant care and attention from me and my family.

It is an honor to do so.  They are both Godly and loving parents and people.

I will be back soon. 

In the meantime.. thanks for your prayers for Mrs. Older.

Thursday, May 7, 2015


"If you claim to be religious but don’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless." James 1:26 (NLT)

For the next couple of blogs... I would like to talk about the way we women talk - and the effect it has on our husband, our children and our lives.  Are you in? 

As someone who talks more than the average human being - well - wait.. let me rephrase that... as someone who talks more than one hundred average human beings, I would often cringe when I read some of the verses - especially in James - about how we should learn to control our tongues. Our speech.  And then I noticed that James wasn't telling us to KEEP QUIET.  He isn't saying we should NEVER SPEAK. 

No.. he says.. CONTROL your tongue.  CONTROL IT.  The word refers to a "bridle".. restraint... 

A few weeks ago a young friend called me because her six year old daughter had been with her mother-in-law for a few hours.  Evidently, the little girl told NANNA that she shouldn't wear such tight clothing because it makes her "look like a whale." 
"Where did you hear that?" Nanna asked
"Mommy said it."
When Mom arrived to get her daughter, Nanna told her daughter-in-law how "cute" it was that her granddaughter had said such a thing, but my friend knew she didn't think there was anything cute about it.  OOOPS.

Now.. if my friend had learned to control her speech... she would not have had such an awkward moment. 

What you say matters.
What do you say to your children about God?
What do you say to your children about their daddy?
What do you say to your children about themselves?

What do you say IN FRONT of your children about others?
What do you say IN FRONT of your children about yourself?

This should be a fun couple of blogs.
Sorta like the kind of fun we all have when we have a root canal.
Nevertheless.. I love you.
Mrs. Older

Tuesday, April 28, 2015




And so... once again... my real life has hit me square in the face... and Mrs. Older has not had enough time in each day.. I truly miss all of you.. and am so SURPRISED.. and HAPPY that some of you have written to ask me where I've been... 

I've been...Finishing up a book.  Caring for my parents who are in their nineties.. (this is mostly were I've been) PLUS...Writing two magazine columns a month. 

I just wanted you to know I have not moved to Mars.  

I will be back next week with a new topic rattling around in my brain.

"Can We Tell How You Speak At Home By The Way Your Children Speak In Public?"  

I think we can. 

I know we can.

O.K. Back To Deadline City.

Love you,
Mrs. Older

Tuesday, April 7, 2015


"Spring Break."  

What picture do those two words bring to your mind?  Used to be it simply meant a time in the Spring when schools give students a break from learning.   Now it brings to mind wild partying, drinking and out-of-control sin.   Someday I may write a blog about parents who allow their kids to be part of this decadent descent in to debauchery.  But not today. 

Spring Break also means that my three middle school grandchildren are not in school this week.  It means they are hanging around more.  It means seeing them.  It means joy.   It means taking a break from my normal routine and entering in to a world of wonder and perfection... (Because I wonder how my grandchildren can be so perfect.. )

As wives and mothers we often underestimate the importance of taking breaks.  We cram so much in to our lives - OUR lives and the lives of our children - that we forget what it's like to sit back and do nothing for a day.  We have a to-do list and it becomes as important as the Bible.  We have to do what the to-do list says or... or..... or... WHAT?

In one of his many books, author and teacher Warren Wiersbe, talking to leaders wrote, "Sometimes the holiest thing you can do is to take a nap."

My grandmother used to teach us that no matter how much we love the Lord, if our bodies are physically exhausted, we cannot thrive as God's children the way He intends for us to thrive.


Mom, take a break sometime this week.  Take a night off and simply hug your kids.
Take an afternoon this weekend and play outside with them.  Or play inside with them.
Or just relax. With them.

And do the same thing with and for your husband.  Take a break from what you HAVE to do and do something you WANT to do.

Take a break.  It's Spring.

 Just because advice is simple doesn't mean it won't change your world.
Lighten up, honey.
Just for a few days.

And... again... thank you to all of you who are signing up to receive this via email.
Mrs. Olde

Wednesday, March 25, 2015


"One day Jesus was praying in a certain place. When he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.”  Luke 11:1

So now let's get to the point of the last TEN blogs.  What kind of woman is a follower of Jesus supposed to be in her every day life?

An example. 

The Bible is full of verses that tell us that people have been given to us as as example for us to see.

Jesus Himself said, "I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you." (John 13:15)
And then Paul said, "Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ."
(1 Corinthians 11:1)

And the verse that started blog today shows us that the disciples SAW Jesus praying, SAW the power in His life... and wanted to know how to pray.  Let me ask you again, does your husband see you praying? Do your children see you praying?

Ask yourself this question:  "If my children grow up and live their lives ONLY by what I lived by example.. what kind of life will my children live?"

You may TELL them to love Jesus more than anything, but do they SEE you living that way?
You may TELL them that God is all they need, but do you need MORE than that in order to be happy?
You may TELL them to pray about everything... but do they SEE you praying about everything?

Please don't get the wrong impression of Mrs. Older.  I had to LEARN that prayer is the answer in every situation. I had to LEARN about the peace that comes from spending time with God. Even though I have the MOST Godly prayer warrior of a mother, there came a time when I HAD TO PRAY FOR MYSELF.  And for MY family.

And so, that's where the rubber meets the road, dear wife and mother.

The last ten blogs were simply reminding you that if you pray for the purpose of seeking God, knowing God, hearing from God, calling out to God... WANTING GOD... you will find what you want.  He will become your firm foundation.

The easiest way to become a woman of prayer is..... to pray.
Prayer is simply talking to God.
Talk. To. God.
You may have to put down the computer.  Put it down.
You may need to get off Facebook for a while.  Get off.
You may need to miss a TV show.  Miss it.

Who knows what will happen in your life when you are devoted to prayer.
God does.
Who knows if you will raise the dead.
God does.

But focus on raising your kids instead of raising the dead.
Focus on leaving a new generation of people who know the power of God.
Focus on God.

I would like to encourage you to view this trailer from a movie, "WAR ROOM"  that is coming to theaters this August 28. I have been blessed to have been slightly behind the scenes as it has been written and filmed.. "Prayer is a powerful weapon."  God is calling our nation to prayer. 


Mrs. Older

Tuesday, March 17, 2015


PART TEN?  Part TEN???  Yes... Here we go......
One of the many, many, many, many things I appreciate so much about our Heavenly Father is that when He decided to use humans to write The Bible, He chose to write it honestly.  He chose to show us how people REALLY are. He didn't write a book about perfect people, living perfect lives while worshiping their Perfect God.  He wrote a book showing a Perfect God who CHOOSES to love a race of rebellious and sinful people.  Sadly, many of us who claim to follow Him think we have to be perfect little religious robots who never doubt, never falter, never get tempted and never fail.  Where did we get that idea? Certainly NOT FROM THE BIBLE.

The last NINE blogs have talked about how our first purpose in prayer is to know God, love God, and have God reveal His love to us.

BUT.. dear wife and mother.. the Bible shows us that prayer is sometimes just a DESPERATE  CRY FOR HELP!  And God has no problem with that.

If you need HELP.. cry out to God! One of my favorite Psalms is Psalm 107. If you take the time to read that Psalm you will see that it describes four different kinds of people - who found themselves in storms and deep troubles. Some of them got there because of their rebellion against God's Word and Law while others were simply weathering the storms of life. BUT THE ONE THING THEY ALL HAD IN COMMON IS THAT WHEN THEY CRIED OUT TO THE LORD IN THEIR DESPERATION... HE HEARD THEM.. AND RESCUED THEM.  Even if it was their poor decisions that was causing their distress! God LONGS to show mercy.  He doesn't excuse sin.. but.. when we look up to Him in our distress.. HE HEARS US. HE HEARS and HELPS.  Yes.. He does.

Something dawned on me a few years ago was as I was reading the Gospels about Jesus and His prayer in the Garden of Gethsemane.  Jesus knew what was about to happen.  He was going to take the SIN of ALL HUMANITY on Himself.  And in so doing, He was going to get the brunt of God's Wrath on Himself.  It wasn't just OUR SIN that Jesus took. It was GOD'S WRATH toward US and OUR SIN that He endured on that Cross.

A horrible thing to have to endure.  And Jesus knew it.  And He said that He came to do the will of His Father. And He knew the only reason He was alive was to take our sin.  And He was full of the Holy Spirit. And FULL power.   And FULL of love. And wisdom.
AND YET... when faced with what He KNEW was God's Will.
When faced with what HE KNEW was God's plan.
He asked His Father if there was
ANY WAY He could take that cup away.  Is there any other way you can do this without Me having to be the one laying down my life, Father?
And yet.. knowing the horror ahead He chose to do God's will.
And the Gospel of Luke says an angel from Heaven came to strengthen Him.

THIS GIVES ME GREAT ENCOURAGEMENT.  If Jesus had a moment where He wanted to find a way out of suffering... then certainly God understands when I have moments like that.
Because sometimes I DO NOT WANT TO OBEY.
I do not want to suffer.
I do not want to lay my life down to serve others.
I cannot believe that God is expecting me to endure what God is expecting me to endure.

And how gracious and merciful of our Heavenly Father to let us know that Jesus also had a moment of wondering if there was any way around God's will.

NOW.. let's just clarify.  Bearing the sin of the world, dying in our place and being resurrected in our place... is a whole lot more difficult than any thing you or I will ever go through.  I'm not comparing our suffering to Christ's suffering.  But.. I am saying that He understands that moment of thinking.. "Father God, I am unable to walk this path that You seem to be asking me to walk."

This is long enough.
I want to encourage you today.. that God will give you the strength to obey what HIS PLAN is for you today.
Not enough money? Not enough love?  Not enough wisdom? Not enough peace?

Jesus understands what life on earth is like.
He is INTERCEDING for you.
He is saying, "Father, she needs some help. She needs some strength.  She needs an angel from heaven to show her some love.  She is weak and wants to obey, but feels weak right now."

The Holy Spirit is right there.. Right now.
He sees you.
He loves you.
He will strengthen you.

Mrs. Older.
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Wednesday, March 4, 2015


I AM SHOCKED.  I am getting MORE emails from y'all about these blogs about prayer than almost ANY OTHER.  You're telling me that you're reading them, thinking about them and to "keep writing about this, Mrs. Older!"   THANK YOU to all of you who take the time to send Mrs. Older an email at

The next few blogs will be shorter... and I will be ending this subject in a blog or two or three... But today I would like to examine The Lord's Prayer.  Oh, not the one that starts with "Our Father who art in heaven."  But the prayer that Lord actually prayed.  It's in John 17. You should know that I could write BOOKS about this one chapter.. so.... I am going to just give the highlights of what I learned.. and maybe you will learn also. I am combining various verses to give you the highlights.. But you can simply read Chapter 17 of the Gospel of John for yourself...  Jesus prayer says these things:


“I have revealed you to those whom you gave me out of the world. They were yours; you gave them to me and they have obeyed your word.
As a mother, this should be your primary goal with your children.  When you pray to God can you say the same thing?  Can you say, "I have revealed YOU to my children"?  Are you the one revealing God and His Word to your children?  Or are you expecting the children's ministry at church to do it?  Jesus said..."You gave them to me"? Do you acknowledge who really owns your family?  Do you acknowledge this to yourself?  To your children?   When you see that they obey His Word do you explain to them that you have to explain to GOD HIMSELF what you did with the children HE ALLOWED YOU TO HAVE?   No youth leader, or children's minister is going to have to answer to God about whether or not they revealed Him to your child as much as YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO answer to God about whether as you walked and talked and got up and went to bed... JESUS was revealed as a the only way of knowing their Heavenly Father.


 "Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name, the name you gave me, so that they may be one as we are one. I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it."

Jesus knew that His followers would need to be protected and He asked HIS FATHER TO PROTECT THEM.  Do you pray for protection around your children?  Not just for protecting them while they play soccer... but.. protect them from THE ONSLAUGHT OF THE ENEMY WHOSE ONLY GOAL IS to keep them from following Christ.  Jesus never said anything but that the world would hate His followers.  Do you acknowledge this to yourself?  Do you know that your children will believe things that are FOREIGN and HATED by most of their friends?  Have you explained this to your children? On earth, there is nothing popular about being a follower of Jesus.  Your children need to understand the cost of making a decision to follow Jesus.  Do they understand that fitting in with the world is not going to be their path? 

 “Father, I want those you have given me to be with me where I am, and to see my glory, the glory you have given me because you loved me before the creation of the world."

Forever is what matters.  Do your children live each day understanding that this world is not the end?  Do they understand that forever is what really matters?  Do you explain to them that someday.. they WILL SEE JESUS in all HIS GLORY?   Do they live their life HERE with their heart on their life THERE?

This is long enough.
Jesus prayer was mostly about finishing the work God gave Him.
(Sound familiar, Mom?)
Praying they would be protected from losing touch with God.
Praying they would be with Him in heaven someday.



Love you,
Mrs. Older
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