if a plane crashes......people are going to blame the pilot and not the passenger.
If a surgery fails........ people are going to blame the surgeon and not the patient...
if you're the victim of a plane crash, or the patient whose surgery was unsuccessful... WHO CARES WHO GETS THE BLAME? You'd rather they would have done it right in the first place.
Then... imagine further....if your family discovers that the pilot WILLINGLY ignored the rules of flying..that the pilot didn't want to be bothered flying the plane the way it was supposed to be flown... and because he IGNORED the rules... the plane crashed...
if the public discovered that the surgeon at the local hospital KNEW what would save the patient's life....and STILL chose to ignore the rules of surgery.....there would be a great uprising among the people in your family....in your community.. in the world.
IN THE SAME WAY.....
...the husband is the PILOT of the HOME.. who keeps the family from a crash landing...
....and he's the SURGEON of his own family... whose main purpose is to HEAL and PROTECT THE HEALTH OF HIS FAMILY.
I would be disingenuous.. I would be ignoring the reason so many wives.. yes.. even Christian wives are heartbroken, discouraged, and defeated about the state of their marriage.
Many wives are living with husbands who are just ignoring the rules of being a husband.
And their marriage has crash landed....the family is dying rather than healing... and his wife, his children, are gasping their last metaphorical breaths... and the guy... just doesn't care.
But God cares. Oh, YES HE DOES.
1 Peter 3:7 says:
"In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered." Other translations use the words "cut off" or "unheard" in place of the word "hindered"
BUT.. there is no denying.. that...this Scripture teaches that the effectiveness of a husband's prayers.......are connected to his effectiveness as a husband.
"But wait" you say. "If this is true, then the most loving thing our pastor can do is to continually remind the husbands in our congregation that the way they are treating their wives... affects the way God treats their prayers. AND prayer is such a vital part of being a Christian.. that it seems almost negligent that a pastor would forget to teach this to his men on a very regular basis. Our pastor has never taught about this. Why is that?"
VERY GOOD QUESTION. I don't have the answer. I am not your pastor.
Pray for your pastor. Pray for your husband.
AS WITH ALL THINGS...
Talk to God about your husband.
Don't talk to your husband about God.
MORE.. next time.