Wednesday, August 14, 2013
LEARNING LOVE MEANS LOVING LAUNDRY
About twenty miles away my husband was growing up in his house. And his mother worked a full time job and so did his father. Many nights when my husband and his older brother and sister got home from school they knew that a great and delicious dinner would be waiting for them - but it would be sitting on the stove. Their parents were often at work. His mom did her best - but doing the laundry fell to everyone in the home. Often, the best she could do was put a load in the washer and ask them to put it in the dryer... or... they would have to go in to the basement and fold their clothes themselves.
One day....after years of marriage.... I asked my husband one of those questions that I I had NEVER asked him before. I said, "In order of importance... what would be the ONE THING you would want me to do if I could only do ONE THING a day?
His answer? The laundry.
So from that day on... I focused on laundry. I put it in the washer, put it in the dryer, folded it AND... PUT IT AWAY. (BTW, it's my least favorite thing to do in life other than having a root canal.) Years later... he STILL says every now and then... "Hon, thanks for doing the laundry." It still matters to him.
I mention this to you because maybe you, like me, are forcing your husband to make what was important in your PARENT'S MARRIAGE important to him....because it's important to you.
This is not a super spiritual suggestion.
Maybe you can ask your husband, like I asked mine, " Of all the things I do that keeps this household running smoothly, what's the MOST important one to you?" Have you EVER asked that question.
His answer might surprise you.