People don't live with my husband.
There have been times in our decades long marriage when I am sure that aliens have abducted my real husband and replaced him with a stubborn and unreasonable droid. It's like, "Who ARE you and what have you done with my husband?" Today I am speaking to wives who are dealing with an Alien Droid who is masquerading as the man you married. The Alien doesn't get you AND doesn't want to. It's only natural.... that... if an Alien invaded your home your immediate course of action would be to dial 911. "HELP! HELP ME! HELP!!!! A BEING FROM OUTER SPACE IS LIVING IN MY HOME! FIND MY REAL HUSBAND!! HELP ME! GET ME OUTTA HERE!" I understand, I really do. But I would like to suggest that the wise wife's reaction to the Alien Droid Husband Scenario is to adopt the U.F.O. Policy.
If you husband is abusive I'm not telling you to keep it a secret... If he is.. shout it to the world.. and run for your life! I'm not telling you to keep silent about or to hide a SINFUL lifestyle.
I'm saying keep your OPINIONS UNSPOKEN. When you say things like,
"he's so selfish" - "he's so immature" - "he's a momma's boy" - "he's lazy" it's your OPINION.. not truth itself...so...KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. Don't belittle your husband. Someday, the Alien Ship will return with your real husband, and the words you say now will be words you will have to eat later. Keep your opinions to yourself. Trust me. It's a bigger deal to your husband than you may think it is. (BTW - This works both ways....I am not a perfect wife. But you'll never hear my husband say so.)
Everybody thinks my husband is a saint and that's just fine with me. He is.
"Her husband is a well-known and respected leader in the city" Proverbs 31:23XOXOXOXOXO,