Thursday, May 10, 2012

SOME WIVES ARE NOT MOTHERS

More women stay home from church on Mother's Day than any other Sunday of the year.  Why?  Because it's a reminder for many of them of what they never had, or what they had and lost. For women who have not been able to have a child, for women who have lost a child, for women who have lost their mother - it is the MOST DIFFICULT day of the year. 
I know this because of hearing from so many women who read articles I have written or have heard me speak at a conference they've attended. They write to me. They tell me. 
I don't believe that those of us who have NOT lost our mothers, who have NOT struggled with infertility, who have NOT experienced the loss of a child should be thought insensitive because we celebrate the blessings God has given us.  Every one of us - even those who cannot celebrate on Mother's Day - have countless blessings to thank God for.

But... Mother's Day can be a really difficult day for more women than you might think.
You cannot change a thing - you cannot bring a mother back, or create a baby in a womb.  But.. you can....
Reach out. 
Notice.
Love.
You might include a motherless woman in your family's celebration.
If she is someone who loves YOUR children, you might have them write a thank-you card, or give a gift of thanks.
Life is difficult enough, and Mother's Day is an especially difficult one for many wonderful women.
I'm just sayin'.  I'm just shining a little light.
Happy Mother's Day to all the wives who are mothers, and to all the women who are not. Every day is the day that God has created. Every day is a day we should be glad and rejoice in it.
Love you,
Mrs. Older

2 comments:

  1. You must have been reading my mind....or I told you that I don't go to church on Mother's Day. My mother hasn't spoken to me for most of my life. My only child and his family are far away. I used to go to church on Mother's Day but just sat and cried and cried as pictures of mothers and daughters were displayed on every screen every where as our pastor's wife talks about the wonderful bond between mother and daughter. It's just too painful for me. So, I stay home from church and then go to Sunday School afterwards. It still hurts when you have a mother who doesn't like you.....but it hurts less to not expose myself to a mushy Hallmark kind of church service. Mothers and fathers must have been forsaking their children from the beginning of time because God wrote about this to me in His word. "Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me!" Psalm 27:10. "It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed." Deuteronomy 31:8 To those of you with wonderful mothers....have a blessed and wonderful day. Cherish it always!! Appreciate that special Mama in your life!!

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  2. Laura in Scottsdale, AZMay 10, 2012 at 2:47 PM

    I have never seen anyone acknowledge this sad truth. Thank you for doing so. It comforts me to know someone understands.

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