Saturday, July 23, 2016


In my last blog I wrote about what to do when your husband is your enemy. And the answer was to continue to pray for him.  Continue to love him.  And continue to give the situation to the Lord to deal with.  Simple truth is that you will NEED the HOLY SPIRIT to give you the power to love and pray for someone who mistreats you. Jesus never asks us to do something without sending us the power to do it.

There may be some Mrs. Younger's who are expecting that the result of giving the situation of your mean and nasty husband to Jesus will cause Jesus to send down lightening from heaven to zap your mean and horrible husband.  Uhhhh.... No.  

It is vital for every wounded wife to understand that Jesus is not in the business of destroying people who don't like us or treat us poorly or reject us....or Him.

I think that's why so many of us give up on praying. WE pray "Lord... Lord... ZAP HIM, LORD!" prayers. We want to see some evidence that God is just as annoyed at our husband as we are. We want to SEE SOMETHING outwardly.  We want to see our husband PAY for the way he is treating us. (God will discipline your husband.. but not because YOU told Him to.)  We expect a consequence to happen to a person who is being mean to us.. especially after we zip our lips and pray to God about it. 

Don't feel bad if that's what you were expecting.  Don't feel bad if that's what's in your heart.  Well... don't feel GOOD.. but just know that you're in good company.  You're just like Jesus' disciples James and John.  You can read the story for yourself in Luke 9:51-56.

These two disciples assumed Jesus would destroy people who rejected Him like the Samaritan town they were in had just done.  

They asked,  "Lord, do you want us to command fire to come down from heaven and consume them?
(Luke 9:54).  

They didn't really GET or UNDERSTAND who Jesus was.  Why He came.  What His purpose was.  And neither do we when our request of Jesus is to get Him to "get" someone else... or judge someone else...
The disciples felt JUSTIFIED in their hellfire and brimstone attitude.. and sometimes.. in our natural human flesh.. so do we.  A mean husband? Zap him, Lord.

But instead of agreeing with how unholy and unjust those townspeople were, Jesus rebukes those holier-than-thou disciples, saying..

"You do not know what kind of spirit you are of;  for the Son of Man did not come to destroy men's lives but to save them." 

He was MORE CONCERNED about the VENGEFUL SPIRIT inside James and John than the REJECTION of the townspeople.  Maybe James and John were expecting some mutual commiserating from Jesus about the injustice of rejecting the Only Son of Only God?  I think so.  And what better reason to call down fire from heaven than on people who are mean to and reject Jesus?  Who is perfect but Jesus? (No one who is reading this and not the one writing it, for sure)
And perfect and sinless as Jesus is... He didn't seem upset about the way the people treated Him. I wonder what James and John said to one another about Jesus remarks to them? I wonder if they were as surprised as I am to be reminded time and time again that Jesus focus is always on the heart.. on my heart.. and the attitude in it.

What better reason to call down fire from heaven than for a husband who is not being the man of God he needs to be.. or is not loving his wife the way Jesus loved the church.. or his not providing.. or is not kind... or is mean and angry... who says demeaning things to his wife and children....????  and... the list goes on and on.  We go to Jesus about the unfair situation.. we expect Him to call down fire from heaven and show that He is on OUR SIDE...

Jesus was LESS CONCERNED with the fact that the Samaritan town had rejected Him and MORE CONCERNED with the vengeful spirit inside James and John. 

Uhhhhhh Ohhhhhhh

When you go to the Lord to speak to Him about someone in your life who is being unfair to you, your spirit needs to be in tune with the Spirit of God.  When our spirit is bent on revenge, justice, rebukes and correction... we are not praying according to the will of God.

The Son of Man did not come to destroy your husband's life but to save it.  
Simple truth: Jesus loves your husband enough to die for the sin he is living.
Yes... He died to give your husband LIFE.

He wants to HEAL your husband's heart.  He wants to HEAL you. He wants to heal your home.. and heal your children's wounded hearts. (Next blog we will discuss what your arguing is doing to your children.)

Your husband needs healing.  Something inside him is not healthy if he doesn't understand the way to love his wife and family.  It's called sin.  We are all infected.

Pray for the Lord to HEAL your husband... not ZAP him.
Pray for the Lord to REVEAL Himself to your husband
And while you're at it.. ask the Lord to HEAL you.. REVEAL Himself to you.

God is not unfair.  And God sees your broken heart.  
And He will heal everything you give to Him to HEAL.
Give the hurt to God.
Let God deal with your husband while you simply deal with God.
He loves you.

"He heals  the brokenhearted and  bandages their wounds."
Psalm 147:3 

"The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to preach the Gospel to the poor. He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted
to preach deliverance to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed, to preach the acceptable year of the Lord." - JESUS
Luke 4:18-19

Mrs. Older

1 comment:

  1. You give solid advice and back it with the word! It's hard and a challenge because of the pain and disappointment. But learning to trust and yield with lots of prayer and spending time in the Word. He is able!! Thanks