I was a "What About Him?" kind of follower of Jesus.
You know, like Peter was. In John 21, Here's Peter, having denied the Lord, and he's sitting and having a conversation with THE RESURRECTED Jesus..which is mind blowing in and of itself... and Jesus.. being full of mercy and love... is dealing with their Resurrected Relationship. "Do you love me Peter? You do? Well, feed my sheep if you do."
And Peter, being a lot like Mrs. Older was.. asked the Lord, "But what about him?" pointing to another follower of Jesus. Jesus answered, "What is that to you? You must follow me.” (John 21:22)
WHAT DOES THAT HAVE TO DO WITH MARRIAGE???
Any Christian wife has got to remember that being a Christian wife means JESUS has RESURRECTED her RELATIONSHIP WITH HER HEAVENLY FATHER.
We are always to remember this.
We are RESURRECTED people. Here and now. This humility of attitude is something Peter didn't have before the Holy Spirit arrived in his life. This humility of attitude is something the Holy Spirit wants to cultivate in the life of every follower of Jesus. Including wives.
Lots of times.. it's easy to fall in to a "What About Him?" attitude in our marriage. We pray prayers that are like... "Well, Lord, what about him? He isn't obeying you. He isn't loving me like you do. He isn't laying down his life for me? He isn't being a spiritual leader. He's a failure. He's a weak person. What about him, Lord?"
We forget that the ONLY REASON we even have the right to discuss our husband's failures with God is because of our RESURRECTED RELATIONSHIP with Him.. thanks to our LORD JESUS... And when we ask the Lord those kinds of questions, sweet wives, Jesus answers us today as He answered Peter,
"What is that to you? You must follow me.”
I need the Holy Spirit to change me from a
"What about him?" kind of woman
in to a
"What about You" kind of woman.
A "WHAT ABOUT YOU?" WOMAN ASKS:
"What about You, Lord? What do YOU want me to do in this situation? What are you requiring of me, Lord? Do you want me to forgive? I will. Do you want me to have mercy? I will. Do you want me to submit? I will. Do you want me to prefer his needs right now? I will. What about YOU LORD?"
My husband, BTW, is an amazing man of God. Kind. Tenderhearted. Loving. And STILL... I used to wait until HE was doing what HE was supposed to do as an excuse for not asking the real question.. "Lord, what about You?"
The answer to that question always starts with one word: OBEY.
After 45 years of marriage.. I can tell you that a wife whose main concern is obeying God is a wife whose God will take care of her. No matter what.
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