In the whiny world of "what is wrong with husbands" we often deal with the BIG stuff like adultery, addiction, physical abuse, his mother - but there is a huge sea of silently suffering sisters out there whose husbands have a sinister sickness that is slippery and difficult to address. It is "THE LAZY MAN"
Today...I write to the wife out there who has a LAZY husband and cannot find help anywhere. I offer you
"TEN REASONS WHY MEN ARE LAZY"
#10 - HE THINKS HE'S SMARTER THAN THE REST OF US -
"Lazy people consider themselves smarter than seven wise counselors." - Prov. 26:16.
This guy walks in to a room, and although he has no success in life to point to, he gives everyone advice about what they are doing, how they should do it and has a superior attitude as he speaks. You can find him telling a pilot how to fly a plane, a pastor how to run a church, a musician how to have a music career, an auto mechanic how to fix a car. The recipients of his advice are often too polite to point out to Smarter Than All Of Us that he has no success or credentials to validate his opinion about anything. EVER.
#9 - HE CAN SEE THE FUTURE -
The lazy person claims, “There’s a lion on the road! Yes, I’m sure there’s a lion out there!”
The lazy person says, “There’s a lion outside! I’ll be killed in the public square!”
Proverbs 26;13 and Proverbs 22:13
If you talk to this husband.... he knows that if he calls someone they won't answer the phone; if he fixes something it will only break again; if he tries to work on his marriage it won't do any good; if he applies for a better job, he won't get it. He KNOWS what is going to happen before he even tries. His attitude, "Why bother?" is the reason he doesn't. Bother, that is.
#8- HE LIKES TO SLEEP -
As a door swings back and forth on its hinges, so the lazy person turns over in bed.
But you, lazybones, how long will you sleep? When will you wake up?
Proverbs 26:14; Proverbs 6:9
There is something about this guy that makes him think he has a right to relax all the time. All the time. He resents any job or any person who interferes with his RIGHT to relax... He thinks life is about doing whatever is FUN.. and work, to him, is NOT FUN....He is always the last one in the family to get out of bed.
#7 -CHRISTIAN COMPASSION ENABLES HIS LAZINESS -
“Those unwilling to work will not get to eat.” 2 Thessalonians 3:10
When my husband was a pastor, a couple with young children started to attend our church. We later realized that they had made the rounds of most of the churches in our city. This man saw himself as a minister, although he was not ordained, and spent his days handing out tracts on the street. His wife was terrified her children would not have food, and that they would be evicted. When she went to him with her terror....he would tell her to "trust the Lord." Those of us who loved her saw what was happening and we would give her money, food, clothing. How can you let a woman only have a bag of rice in her cupboard? When we would do this, his answer to her would be, "See? God provided." There are men who are out of work and cannot find jobs.. especially in our society today.. AND WE MUST HELP ONE ANOTHER... but.. this guy felt his "ministry" excluded him from having a job. When my husband spoke to him about his laziness, they left the church. But in Thessalonians.. they addressed the problem head on - "If you don't work.. if you don't TRY to work... maybe hunger pangs will change your tune" Furthermore, if you read the verses BEFORE the one listed above, you see that Paul was telling the people that THEY WORKED as an EXAMPLE to them. They never took anything without paying for it.
#6 - HIS WIFE IS NOT LAZY -
"She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.
His wife is a Proverbs 31 kind of woman and covers for him most of their lives. No one sees the work she does behind the scenes. She and her husband both know that it is SHE who keeps things together in their family. This makes him even lazier. He knows if something needs to be done, his wife will do it. Why should he get himself worked up about it? She'll do it. The solution would seem to be for the wife to STOP doing everything... but... most women don't want their children... or themselves.. to have to suffer for HIS laziness..
This is long enough for now. I will finish with the next five reasons in the next blog. I am certainly NOT INTENDING to bash husbands. But I wonder why we don't deal with this issue when it rears it's destructive head?
Proverbs 18:9 teaches us that
"A lazy person is as bad as someone who destroys things."
"One who is slack in his work is brother to one who destroys.
A LAZY HUSBAND IS DESTROYING HIS MARRIAGE AS MUCH AS AN ADULTEROUS ONE. LAZINESS.... DESTROYS. Do you ever hear a sermon about laziness? I haven't.
HAVE HOPE, DEAR WIFE... because..God hears the prayers of a woman who is married to a lazy man. GOD IS NOT BLIND. He will protect you- even when your husband isn't willing to. JESUS CARES that your husband DOESN'T care. Cast this upon Him... He cares for you.
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