Sunday, April 29, 2012


When a wife becomes suddenly single - widow, divorced - the most difficult and heart-wrenching place to be is CHURCH. Yes. CHURCH.  "Going to church alone" is often the number one answer when suddenly single people are asked about the most difficult thing to do after their marriage is over.  (This applies to people who have never been married, also)  Since God created marriage... church would be the logical place to assume that marriage and family would be lauded and applauded.  As it should be. It's the place where families gather. It's a day that families stay together more than on other days.

But, I just want to ask you to notice that some women (and men) are sitting there alone.  And whether they admit it or not, it's very difficult to do.  And some of your friends may not even go to church at all.... they are sitting home alone on Sundays because they feel their loneliness the most on that day.   It's not anyone's fault that someone else is alone.. but it couldn't hurt to reach out.. could it?  Sunday is a day we set aside to honor God.  Honor Him by loving and reaching out to someone who is alone today.  An invitation to lunch?  An invitation to spend the afternoon with your family?  Don't be offended if they decline.  Feeling like a fifth wheel isn't easy either. But... try.  And see what happens. 

Love you very much,
Mrs. Older


  1. This is very true. I was married to my husband for thirty one years when he passed away three years ago, and I would have to say that going to church on Sunday mornings is the time I miss him the most. It is still almost unbearable after all these years. Thank you for addressing this issue.

  2. Thank you for being sensitive to this issue for those of us who used to be wives but are not any longer.