Wednesday, August 22, 2012
TRADITION! - DRAWING A LINE IN THE SAND
She wrote me in response to my request for in-law issues. I'm going to say her name is "Lilly." She says, "I find that one of the hardest things is finding balance in my relationships with my in-laws. So often, I just want to crawl in a hole and avoid them, but I know that is not how Christ would have me act toward them. Four of (my husband's) siblings and his parents live in or around the town we live in. Each one has birthday parties, graduation parties, etc. There are 11 (!) nieces and nephews, although we have no children of our own. Of course, there are also mothers/fathers days and parents birthdays. My questions is: how do we balance how much time we spend with them without offending. Everyone assumes THEIR party is the most important, but if we went to them all, we would be with them 30 weekends out of the year. My husband doesn't want to hurt his siblings' feelings, but it gets to be too much. If we don't go, we feel guilt (false guilt sometimes, but still). I would love to hear your take on this.
This wife is dealing with FAMILY TRADITION! TRADITIONS. In many cases... the In-Law Issue rears its ugly head when one tradition comes face-to-face with another tradition. This young couple is growing weary of spending more than HALF their weekends each year celebrating someone's event.
So today... I will ask you:
What would YOUR advice be to "Lilly"? How would YOU deal with it?
You can post a comment below (anonymously if you choose) and/or you can send me an email at:
I have more to say tomorrow.. and of course.. this should be a "fun" series of blogs... wouldn't you say?
UPDATE: There's lots of good comments below... plus.."Lilly" responds. Read the comments.. and leave your own.