Monday, April 16, 2012


Dear Wife, 
When you are driving today, and the traffic light turns red, you will stop. Won't you?  Of course you will. Why? Mainly because you are aware that in order for traffic to flow smoothly, sometimes some cars get to "go" while other cars have to "stop".  It's called ORDER.  
You understand that if you "GO" when you are supposed to "STOP" one of the "allowed-to-go" cars will slam in to your "supposed-to-be-stopped" car - thereby ruining your manicure, your hairdo... and possibly your spinal column.
Sooooo......You stop at the light. You aren't doing it out of terrified fear. There isn't a police officer at each traffic light with a machine gun waiting to gun you down if you don't stop. You recognize that an authority somewhere installed a traffic light here.. and the red light is put there for your safety.. and NOT to keep you from getting to your job, or the grocery store, or the bank. You don't pout. You don't whine. You stop at the red light.
In it's purest, Godliest, holy form.. submission is a VOLUNTARY action which recognizes a GOOD authority who has established guidelines for our well being and protection. 
 If it isn't voluntary it isn't submission

FOR TODAY.. let me just say that submitting to a husband shouldn't be any scarier than stopping at a red traffic light. You stop, wait, and then go when the light turns green.  

A loving husband gives mostly green lights.  A loving husband wants his wife to go, go, go and live, live, live the life that GOD - HER HEAVENLY FATHER -planned for her.  A loving husband wants his wife to be what GOD CREATED her to be. A loving husband always remembers that his wife is God's daughter.  God cares about the way His daughter is treated - and so should her husband.

So let me find a nice way to say this: 
If you are afraid of your husband....your husband is wrong. (There. I said it.) 
If you are afraid of your husband and your pastor says it's right for you to be afraid of your husband.. your pastor is wrong. (There. I said it again.) 

LOVE is the motivation and the reason Jesus submitted to His Father - not fear.  LOVE should be the only reason a husband asks his wife to submit to his leading... not fear.

1 Peter 3:6 says: 
"Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do." 

Now.. on another day.. we WILL discuss wives who REFUSE to submit in any way, shape or form to a LOVING and GODLY husband who is desperately trying to LEAD.  But not today. OK? Today I want to comfort the wife who is terrified.. and let her know that GOD SEES.. and GOD CARES.. and if you will pour your grief out to HIM.. He will intervene.  I promise. And so does God.

Mrs. Older


  1. Thank you for this. You will never know what it did for my heart.

  2. Sandra, Wilkes Barre, PAApril 16, 2012 at 3:55 PM

    So courageous of you to say what needs to be said.

  3. THANK YOU!!!! I know women who have been held in bondage because of the fear of authority that need to hear this. It's time the church started reinforcing Biblical balance.

    btw, I tagged you in a post over at my place. Hope to see you there.

    1. Lyn, thanks for the comment. How do I find you over at your place?

  4. Loved the traffic light analogy. Great post and very true.