"Marriage Wars" is no different. In every war, there are opposing sides. There are weapons used. There are standoffs, and battles, and wounds, and deeper wounds and in many cases, FATAL WOUNDS. As we discussed in Simple Secrets #1 - Marriage Wars was never God's intention when He CREATED MARRIAGE. He never intended for a marriage to be a war zone. A bad marriage is NEVER God's idea.
Since God created marriage, and since a bad marriage is never God's idea...
Who do you think is the ENEMY in your marriage? Your husband? NAH. He's just a pawn in the Big Battle For The Souls of Humanity, just like you are. No. Your enemy, the one creeping around in your thoughts, your ego and your marriage is SATAN. The one who creates chaos and confusion and division is satan. Now, if you think I am the kind of woman who doesn't take responsibility for her own flaws and failures by saying "the devil made me do it" every time I make a mistake.. you would be making a mistake thinking that about Mrs. Older. Most of the time we are selfish and self-centered and our actions and decisions come from selfish hearts that want our own way all the time... (you know it's true).
On the other hand (there is always the "other" hand) don't be foolish enough to think that your marriage, your husband, your children and your family are not in the cross hairs of the target practice of Hell. I don't want you to be ignorant of the fact that satan hates God, hates God's children, hates marriage, hates everything and everyone. He. Hates. You.
He wants to utterly and completely destroy you in the cruelest way possible.
No need to fear him. Greater is HE that is in you.. and God has already defeated him.. so.. take a deep breath and relax. This isn't about being afraid. This is about being armed and ready and capturing and holding on to the VICTORY THAT JESUS HAS ALREADY WON FOR YOU.
For the next few blogs I would like to make you aware of some of his tactics so that you might recognize them.. and when you do.. you will stop letting him use them..against you, your marriage, your children and your life.
A subtle - and very effective - tactic is DISTRACTION. Being distracted. The purest definition of distraction is that you are SUPPOSED to be looking somewhere and something has caused you to look somewhere else.
For example.. we are all aware of the damage that is being caused by DISTRACTED DRIVERS. They are SUPPOSED to be looking at the road, and instead they are looking at their cell phones. Texting. Playing games. Whatever. They are NOT LOOKING where they SHOULD BE looking. Are they evil, stupid, ignorant, hateful people? No. They are distracted. Does their distraction cause damage to others? It does. Are you and your husband evil, stupid, ignorant hateful people because your marriage has become a war zone? No. You've been distracted. And your distraction is causing damage to others and yourselves.
Distraction will cause you to look at your husband's flaws. To get you to focus on how he has disappointed you or hurt you. Or to get your focus on how OTHER husbands treat their wives better than your husband treats you. You might be distracted by what your family does not have, what your husband has not supplied for you. You might be distracted replaying hurtful things he has said in the past.
Today..notice how many times you are distracted by these thoughts.
And then... stay tuned because the next blog will give you the cure for distraction.
What
Should
You
Be
Focused
On?
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