KEEPING SCORE

After a while, if you're not careful, your marriage can become like a competitive sport.  You start keeping score, you don't want to give your husband an advantage, you don't want to let him see your weak spots.  If you know he's right, you will fight to the end before you'll admit it. BUT...

Winning at all costs is the sure way to lose your marriage.

 Marriage is the ultimate team sport. 

• Imagine seeing the pitcher on the mound of a major league baseball game walk off the mound and in to the dugout because the first baseman hurt his feelings. 

• Or the fullback tackle his own quarterback because the quarterback stepped on his foot.

Ridiculous.  But.. in the same way your marriage should be forming you both in to the team that runs the family.  When your husband does something that benefits the TEAM  say so.  SAY SO.

And honestly?  Your children are being formed by watching you.  Don't kid yourself in to believing they don't know what's going on.  They know.  And what message are you giving your children when they see Mommy and Daddy unwilling to get along? Mommy and Daddy unwilling to give credit where credit is due?  The way you act toward one another is what your kids are being formed by.  Not your pious words, but by your actions.  

I would like to make a suggestion. 
Give your husband credit for stuff he does or says or is.
YUP... ADMIT IT.
 
OPEN YOUR MOUTH and say things like,

"You know, I have to give you credit for....

 ....knowing how to fix the lamp in the family room"

OR...
..........doing so well at your job."
..........putting up with my mother"
..........reading your Bible so much."
..........making me feel beautiful all the time."
..........not being someone who gets drunk."
..........keeping up with the chores around the house."
..........being sure the family is involved at church."
..........washing the car."

FIND SOMETHING - ANYTHING - TO GIVE THE MAN CREDIT FOR.
TRY IT.

Throw the relationship scoreboard out the window.
Then relax and enjoy the halftime show.

XO,
Mrs. Older.

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