HUSBANDS WHO WON'T LEAD - OR - WIVES WHO WON'T FOLLOW?

Because I love all my Mrs. Youngers.. and the other Mrs. Olders who follow this... I did a completely unscientific research project.  I did an email survey of husbands - church-going married men -  and I told them this, "Of all the issues that women who go to church struggle with... the fact that their husbands are not the spiritual leaders in their home is their most often voiced question and/or frustration.  So, please tell me, why don't men embrace the spiritual leadership in their homes the way God requires?"
I am going to tell you what some of the men said... and please.. don't kill the messenger... but try to listen to the message.

• "Honestly?  My wife does it all, so why should I?  She complains that I don't have devotions with the family but then she does it herself.  She is always talking to them about Scripture, what Jesus wants, doesn't want, etc.  She doesn't even LET me say a word, and when I do, she has to expand on it like I'm a complete idiot.  Like, "Well, kids, Daddy didn't do it quite right.. here's what Daddy SHOULD have said.   So, I just let her do it."

• "I used to try and lead.  Decades ago.  But I came to see that whenever I wanted to do something, or when I had a different opinion about something than my wife, there was so much "debate" about it that I just gave up. I hate conflict. So, I surrendered.  She says she wants me to lead, until I actually try to do it. The truth is that she wants to lead. So I just let her.

•  "I do lead.  Where ever my wife tells me to."

• "It's a situation that requires much wisdom.  Because my wife is smart and a leader on her own.  So, I have tried to come to decisions as a couple, and my wife is really good about endorsing my ideas in front of the kids.  We do discuss it when she disagrees, and usually, we can reach decisions together.  I don't like the idea that some church men give out that a husband issues an edict and his wife must obey.  I lead our family with my wife at my side.

• "I believe that women who attend church regularly have been sold a bill of goods that a man who is trying to follow Christ is supposed to be a husband whose only role is to make his wife happy.  If I hear her say one more time that a husband should love his wife the way Jesus loves the church I think I will explode.  I am not Jesus, o.k?"

• "My wife says that spiritual things matter to her, but the truth is that isn't the truth.  She wants me to bring home a good, no, a great salary, she wants our house to be updated and modern, she wants us all to have the best clothing, the nicest vacations, the newest cars.  I am always getting a mixed message from her.  Does she want the things of God's Kingdom to be first in our home? Or does she want things in a home that says it loves God's Kingdom?  She is being hypocritical."

Well, ladies, those are just a few of the comments and emails.  What do you think?
Post your comments.
XOXOXOXO,
Mrs. Older

(UPDATE: Lots of comments for this one... read the comments below)