Mrs. Older is not in the habit of saying "God spoke to me" because I think so many people abuse and overuse that phrase. I think sometimes we have thoughts that are creative and we attribute them to God speaking. Or maybe God DID speak to you. I'm just saying that I am VERY CAREFUL to not use that phrase carelessly. Having said that, let me say this..
Three or four years ago God spoke to me in my heart. In my mind. In my spirit. He just kind of... for a second or two... showed me a big glitch in The System of Doing Church. And it was that we older women are not seriously obeying the role that God has intended for us to have. It's like God whispered to me that women are half of the Army of the Lord, and for all intents and purposes we are mostly A.W.O.L.
One of the things that society has stolen from the Body of Christ is the urgency about OLDER WOMEN teaching and MENTORING YOUNGER WOMEN. One of the ways I have tried to facilitate God's Word and His instructions to older women is to begin this blog. And I have been SHOCKED and SADDENED and SURPRISED to receive countless emails from younger women who tell me, "There is not one older women I know who is available to teach me, or that I can model my life after."
NOW.. before you send those emails.... or comment below... I know there are thousands and tens of thousands of Godly women mentoring younger women. Unfortunately there are millions and tens of millions of younger women who are beginning to realize they NEED an older Godly woman's wisdom.
I think there are some key elements to the disappearance of the older woman/mentor in our churches.
1- We are annoyed to have to be identified as "mature" or "older" or "aging." Just a hundred years ago, the life expectancy in this country was 52 years of age for women. Being OLDER was a badge of honor back then. NOW, we cringe at anything that suggests we are not young. We do whatever we can to remove wrinkles, sags, bags and white hair. I'm not saying it's wrong to do those things.. I'm just saying we are not as happy to be aging as we might have been a hundred years ago. We want to stay young because SOCIETY has convinced us that youth is more important than wisdom and experience. But that isn't what God's Word says. No, it says just the opposite.
2- We are retired. There is not one verse in God's Word which says that when we have reached a certain age, we can stop being vessels of honor for God or we can stop using THE GIFTS HE HAS GIVEN US TO BLESS HIS BODY. There is nothing in God's Word that instructs us that we should live a lifestyle of working for a few decades and then telling the world around us that we are unavailable for ministry. True, society may have a "retirement age", but God doesn't.
3- We are offended. Let's face it, younger people don't really want or ask for advice, so why stick our necks out? Well, it may APPEAR to be that way, but in reality, the generation that grew up with moms who wanted to be liberated are now becoming wives and mothers and are DESPERATE for women who have LIVED the life to guide them and MENTOR THEM. Younger women are desperate for someone who has LIVED the life and been victorious.
4- We don't like change. As someone who has been a Women's Ministry Leader I can tell you that some older women are so resistant to change that without realizing it, they are often tools in the enemy's hands. Just because something is different doesn't mean it is SINFUL and UNGODLY.
Anyway... my point is that God has given me a call in life. I don't know HOW HE IS GOING TO ACCOMPLISH IT... but I am calling you... OLDER WOMEN... to take seriously the instructions to BE LOVE and WISDOM and THERE for the younger women around you.
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Mrs. OLDER
WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IS TRUTH.. OLDER CHRISTIAN WOMEN ARE TRULY NOT INTERESTED IN POURING THEMSELVES IN TO THE LIVES OF THOSE WOMEN WHO ARE FOLLOWING BEHIND THEM. IT IS A SERIOUS ISSUE AND ONE THAT THE CHURCH IN AMERICA SHOULD BE ADDRESSING. THANK YOU FOR DOING SO.
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