tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post1487347290691593939..comments2023-12-21T04:12:43.597-08:00Comments on A Word To The Wives: SHE'S FISHING FOR YOUR HUSBAND!Mrs. Olderhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07584063642606232360noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-59171407073182797362012-03-30T11:54:11.949-07:002012-03-30T11:54:11.949-07:00I enjoy this blog. I find you refreshing and hones...I enjoy this blog. I find you refreshing and honest. I think we older women understand how Satan tries to get between a husband and wife. Your advice is perfect.Patricia Johnsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-6175910715967180422012-03-30T10:17:37.764-07:002012-03-30T10:17:37.764-07:00As a fellow Mrs. Older, and a pastor's wife I ...As a fellow Mrs. Older, and a pastor's wife I agree with every word you wrote. Keep it up.Martha J.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-77993687954336528672012-03-30T09:56:29.444-07:002012-03-30T09:56:29.444-07:00What a brave woman you are! To confess to somethin...What a brave woman you are! To confess to something just because you knew you should and not because you were caught. And thank God for those kind and loving pastors and for loving churches that stand by people who hit a bump in the road. Thanks for your comments.Mrs. Olderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07584063642606232360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-21626002491278494252012-03-30T09:50:51.377-07:002012-03-30T09:50:51.377-07:00Glad that stephanie left the comments that she lef...Glad that stephanie left the comments that she left becuz I too had a husband who cheated on me but we were blessedto have a church family that stood with us. this all happened three years ago and we are a solid couple once again. at first i would not even allow our pasto to look at me or to even hint that i had issues that made our marriage such a sad one. i felt happy that my huband was also the bad guy. and my pastor never told me that it was my fault my husband cheated. he just said when we first met in his office that in order to heal the marraige every thing had to be out in the open. i had cheated on my hsuband but never told him and i tried to hide it. god made me come clean and i think ti was then that we began to really heal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-29873878444624891602012-03-30T09:28:33.766-07:002012-03-30T09:28:33.766-07:00Stephanie,
Thanks for posting. Your comments, I...Stephanie,<br />Thanks for posting. Your comments, I'm sure, will help many wives who might be enduring the pain of infidelity. I agree that in every marriage, both parties have to always be OPEN to the Holy Spirit convicting each spouse and guiding each spouse. I applaud your decision to save your marriage. As for the reader you are referring to, I think it was brave of her to comment, and only God knows what she has been - or is - enduring. Thanks for posting. I'm thrilled.Mrs. Olderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07584063642606232360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-57943541725435140352012-03-30T09:24:55.753-07:002012-03-30T09:24:55.753-07:00Oh, dear sweet woman, why don't you just tell ...Oh, dear sweet woman, why don't you just tell your husband what you just told me? And maybe you have made mistakes in the past. Who hasn't? But today is a new day. And God makes all things new. You can start today. And of course if you send me a private email I will answer it. Thanks for reading and for posting a comment.Mrs. Olderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07584063642606232360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-70664911210271974502012-03-30T09:23:03.202-07:002012-03-30T09:23:03.202-07:00Dear Anonymous,
First let me say thanks for post...Dear Anonymous, <br /><br />First let me say thanks for posting even though you don't like the tone of the blog. I so WELCOME your comments. <br />But...I think if you will re-read it you will see that I agree with you. With quotes like, <br />"FLATTERY was the bait that got him interested. <br />SIN is the reason he got hooked. No woman whose husband claims to be a Christian should ever take responsibility for his sin." <br />AND<br />"Evidently, flattery can make a man take the steps toward the sin that is already in his heart." <br /><br />I think I was pretty direct in saying that it is SIN in a man's heart and not a man's wife that causes him to stray.<br /><br />And you know, I'm sorry that you are tired of being told that things are always the fault of the wife. I don't blame you. In every relationship, it is rarely ever ALWAYS someone's fault exclusively. <br /><br />If you think it is unacceptable advice to tell a woman to look pretty.. or to care for her appearance I guess that's ok for you to think. Thanks again for your comment. I welcome your further comments.Mrs. Olderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07584063642606232360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-45596445478209792832012-03-30T09:07:25.682-07:002012-03-30T09:07:25.682-07:00I don't want to seem unfeeling, but the first ...I don't want to seem unfeeling, but the first comment from anonymous seems like she has been hurt and she comes across as very angry. I think she has reached a point where she is unwilling to look at herself at all, and that might be a reason she has been hurt. My husband had an affair and I chose to try and save our marriage. At first he was the bad guy because he had an affair and I did not. But after being in counseling for a while, I began to see some things I did that crushed his heart. Am I taking the blame? No way. But in order to truly create a NEW marriage after the old one fell apart I had to be willing to acknowledge some things I was doing that contributed to a failed relationship. I don't think you said what she thinks you said. And our marriage counselor never told me that it was my fault my husband cheated on me, but he had some legitimate issues with how I belittled him for decades before he strayed. I think that if anonymous doesn't deal with her anger she will never be healed and whole.Stephanie W.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-36463214272002415992012-03-30T08:43:14.599-07:002012-03-30T08:43:14.599-07:00Oh my. This is hard to read but I know that God a...Oh my. This is hard to read but I know that God allowed me to read it. We go to church, we sing in the choir, but at home in private I am always unhappy with our lives. I complain that he needs to ask for a raise. I complain that my friends have new cars and I am driving an older one. I always tell him when another couple is going on vacation and remind him we cannot afford to. Just yesterday, I reminded him that our next door neighbors have had wood floors installed, and we cannot afford to have our old carpets cleaned. I think about his face as I said it. He is overwhelmed and I am the one who is doing it to him. He feels like a failure, and I am the one who makes him feel that way. Please pray for me. I am sending you a private email. My husband is depressed and the reason is that I have beat him down in private, while publicly acting like I think he is a great husband.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6633723360983223704.post-16760950704459593732012-03-30T08:42:44.135-07:002012-03-30T08:42:44.135-07:00I think that it is unacceptable advice that women ...I think that it is unacceptable advice that women should try to look pretty for their husbands. The tone of your blog makes it sound like when husbands stray, it is the fault of the wife. I'm tired of being told that things are always the fault of the wife or the fault of another woman's bait. Where is the fault of the man that is not happy with what he has?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com